I think it’s fair to say that life is no picnic. There are times in our lives that are seriously challenging. I’ve been there and will no doubt be there again. You may well be going through a really tough time right now.
Here are my thoughts.
When the going gets tough remember this….
- This too will pass. Nothing is forever. Simply knowing this helped me remain sane when my life felt like it was imploding.
- Focus on what is working and celebrate this. Believe me, there will be something that is working, something however tiny that is good in your life. Grab on to it with both hands and be thankful. Celebrate it. It’ll keep you afloat.
- Look after yourself – eat well. You know that the doughnuts and fatty foods aren’t going to make you feel better. Show restraint and love for yourself by eating what is nourishing for your body and soul. Cut back on the alcohol. Drink to celebrate. Don’t drink to block out. Learn from someone who knows! It doesn’t solve the problems.
- Exercise a little every day, get some fresh air. Get revitalising oxygen in your blood. You’ll get a different perspective on your problems. Don’t use the bad weather as an excuse – get your wellies and waterproofs on. You will feel better. Anyone who has suffered with depression will tell you, fresh air is essential.
- Surround yourself with the right people. Choose carefully who you talk to. Choose those who listen well. These are very special people. Hang onto them.
- Play music. Sometimes the silence in our own heads can be deafening. Listen to something uplifting or something that triggers happy, positive memories.
- Control what you can, and have the grace and wisdom to let go of what is out of your control.
- You have overcome difficulties before. You are so much more resilient that you give yourself credit for. If you’re struggling to remember such a time ask a trusted friend to guide you to remember.
- And finally – in 5 years from now will this matter? Even if your challenge is a very serious one, what will you have gained and learned 5 years from now?
How do you help yourself get through the tough times?