I sat watching the sunrise the other morning, awestruck at it’s beauty as it came up behind the hills on the other side of the bay (see the image above). I sat on the seawall in silence absorbing the beauty in my surroundings. The main road wasn’t far behind me and I could also hear the early morning commuters on their way to their place of work. This was around 6.50 in the morning.
I wondered how many of the commuters were sat in their cars mindful of the exquisite sunrise or how many were focussing on their day ahead, miserable they were on the road before 7am, still annoyed from an exchange they had with their partner before leaving the house, worried about their teenage son or any other variation.
I spoke in these philosophical terms with a client a little later on. We talked about the amount of ‘ugly’ we focus on in our lives. The stress, the upset, the problems, the altercations, the fears, the worries, the anxieties. It can feel so constricted in our heads and in our bodies when we’re like this. We feel short sighted. We can’t hear much that’s going on outside of our own thinking. Our world shrinks right down. Have you experienced this in your own life? Perhaps it’s how you feel for much of the time.
What if we were to focus more on the ‘beauty’ in our lives instead? Seeing the everyday beauty in our world might be a good place to start. I don’t want you to think that I’m suggesting you gloss over the ‘ugly’ stuff and just focus in a sugar coated way on only the good stuff. But it might be good to quiet your mind, notice the ‘sunrises’ that are occurring every moment around you and see where this takes your outlook.
Right now I’m looking out of my dining room window straight down the garden. It’s gently raining. It’s rather beautiful watching the rain fall and notice how the garden is changing as we enter autumn. I’m seeing the ‘sunrise’ rather than stressing on the fact that I’m going to get soaked later as I have to go out! It’s only a little thing but perhaps you can see the direction I’m pointing you towards.
The argument you had with your partner this morning, you’re feeling angry because he just won’t see your point of view on something. What if you came from a place of goodwill in the relationship? What if you put yourself in his shoes and saw what he’s seeing? How could you turn that into a ‘sunrise’?