New Year’s Day: Now is the accepted time to make your regular annual good resolutions. Next week you can begin paving hell with them as usual. ~Mark Twain
Ok, so here we are, 2 weeks into the New Year and I don’t want to be the party pooper (much) but do tell me………….How are you doing? Make any resolutions? Still going with them are you? Be honest, how long did you last? What was it this year? Gym membership? Dieting? One coffee a day? Alcohol limited to the weekend? Not to bitch about people?…………..Now I’m not trying to rain on your parade here as I believe the intention behind all resolutions is a good one, they are however to my mind a big con designed to make us feel crap about ourselves…………yet again. What does the voice in your head tell you? Loser, failed again, typical, just like you………..blah blah blah.
I’ve been there, done that so many times in younger days and you know what…………I gave up making punitive resolutions a long time ago.
Ask yourselves in all seriousness why you are making resolutions. Ask yourself really what you want from writing your list of resolutions.
How can we successfully get fit if we see it as a punishment? How can we give up alcohol during the week if we see it as a denial rather than a positive choice? How can we lose weight when it just makes us miserable?
How does any of this benefit us? How does being mean and punishing ourselves make us feel better?
If you want to lose weight decide to do so. If you want to give up drinking during the week, do so. But do it in such a way that you are highly motivated to do so, ie you look forward to the end result. Ask yourself why you’re wanting to lose weight. What will you get out of losing weight? Fit into that red dress? Why do you want to do that? Keep asking the questions until you get to the real reason for wanting to lose weight or get fit………….you’ll find it’s got something to do with how you feel about yourself.
My aim is to cut back on alcohol……….I’m no alcoholic to put the record straight just someone who loves that first taste of a glass of wine when I’m back from work or had a crazy hectic day. It relaxes me…………..actually that’s the problem, it relaxes me just a little too much. I get nothing done in the evening after a glass or two and I’m not talking about the ironing, filing, cleaning kind of doing, I fall asleep on the sofa and see nothing of the evening, (even CSI can’t keep me awake).
I love the hit of the first mouthful of wine yet I’ve decided that I want my evening more. This is my reason for putting the kettle on rather than pulling out the cork (or unscrewing the cap!). I’ll get my evening back, more hours in the day and even better I’ll get a good night’s sleep. Now that is what motivates me……………..and you know what if one evening during the week I ‘fail’ I’m definitely not going to beat myself up, I’m going to enjoy the wine and start again the next day!
How can you take a look at your resolutions and turn them into something you really want? Look at why you want to lose weight, decide exactly what it is you want to get out of joining the gym (if it’s for the hot gym instructors be honest with yourself!) If you’re struggling to do this on your own get a life coach for a few months, there are plenty of us out here to act as your guide and cheerleader willing you to succeed in your resolutions.
So how about trying something completely different and resolving this year to lighten up, be nice to and about yourself, add a good helping of fun and laughter and thank heavens that you’re alive and have a life to live and enjoy?
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. — Winston Churchill