How to Write an Irresistible Dating Profile 

Most online dating profiles are deadly boring right? Why? Because most people, once they register on a site, just want to fill in the blank spaces of the template as quickly as possible, so they can begin actually dating.

The result: drab profiles that tend to look a lot the same.

Singles who are dating (and I was certainly one of them) typically keep accounts on more than one dating site--which means they are faced with several blank templates to complete.

The typical solution to the dilemma? Copy/paste.

The dullness and unoriginality of the average profile means that it's actually pretty easy to stand out and attract attention. This is what I'll be showing you on this programme.

rebecca perkins - the midlife coach

Hi, I'm Rebecca, I'm an author, life coach and a recent midlife dater. Following divorce, I found myself 45, single and dating for the first time in over 20 years. I decided to give online dating a go and found it was indeed a brave new world.

​I had a lot of fun, met some great guys and became intrigued by what people chose to write in their dating  profile. Never quite connecting with the kind of like-minded guys I hoped, I worked on creating my Irresistible Dating Profile and within a few weeks met 'the one'.

​My expertise lies in guiding clients into the right mindset for dating in midlife as well as helping them craft their own fabulous stand out profile.

​Ultimately all my work is about helping you become more motivated and inspired about life and right now specifically in having the confidence to be yourself in the world of dating.

So what would it be like to create an Irresistible Dating Profile?

You will be treating your online dating identity as an important experiment. You'll be creating different profiles for each site you're registered on. In fact, each profile will place a different aspect of your personality--a different persona--in the spotlight.

And you will not actually be telling much about yourself. Telling is boring. Anyone can waffle on about themselves, and that's not too sexy. Every writer knows the maxim, Show, don't tell!

I'm going to teach you, step by step, how to show intriguing bits of yourself through your words. And, as a result, your profile will NOT drone, "I'm the kind of person that likes to curl up with a good book."

No no no! Yours will be the profile playing the movie trailer…..

It’ll be fun, it’ll be challenging and it’ll definitely be a stretch….and I can pretty much guarantee you'll have some great insights into what's important for you in your dating life.

Once you’ve completed all 5 steps you’ll be ready to take the online dating world by storm!

The Steps

Step One: Creating an Outstanding Username

Step Two: Having a Headline That Hooks

Step Three: Show Don't Tell

Step Four: The Things I Couldn't Do Without

Step Five: What I'm Looking For

This programme is for you if:

​- you're serious in your search for a lasting relationship

- you're ready to challenge yourself and get thinking creatively

​- you're prepared to look inside and discover that you already have all the answers

Getting started is easy.

Your first step is to choose the version of the programme that looks right for you.

From Survive to Thrive


An online  programme taking you step by step through the process of creating a stand out online dating profile. It's completely DIY and modules will be sent through every other day for you to work on at your own pace. The DIY Option includes:

  •  Teaching audios and videos.
  • Additional worksheets at the start of the programme to help you dig deeper into your beliefs about what's possible for you, and what you're looking for.
  • Additional reading material from blog posts I've written for a variety of dating websites and other publications.
  • The option to book a free call with me if you get stuck or decide you'd like some cheerleading through the process.


The Cheerleading Option is designed for those of you who want hands-on support to keep you motivated, inspired and accountable for actually sitting down and writing your profile. Although you're still the one writing your profile I'll be on hand via email cheering you on and keeping you motivated. I'll be available to talk through stumbling blocks and keep you inspired. You'll receive the first module as soon as you've signed up and then each of the following modules will be sent through every couple of days.  The Cheerleading Option includes:

  • Everything that's in the DIY option - teaching audios, videos, worksheet, additional reading.
  • 2 hours of private coaching sessions on Skype to be used as you wish. It might be for hands on help with your profile or perhaps you'd rather use it for improving your confidence. It's up to you.

A great discount on a 6 month membership with eHarmony in the UK

"Thank you so much for a fantastic time creating my profile - I enjoyed it so much! I loved the process that we went through, it made so much sense and has given me an enormous boost of confidence. It's very exciting to think about what lies ahead for me now. JS

"I hoped Rebecca could help me improve my profile a little. I was wrong. The improvement was dramatic! She helped me think and write more creatively than I thought was possible. She is a brilliant mentor. AJ

When you register

When you register you’ll receive your first lesson, which will include an introductory video from me, PDFs and worksheets to get you started.

A new lesson will follow every other day for 10 days.

And don’t worry; if you miss an email or get off track, you can easily log into your account to access all previous lessons; they’re yours forever.

rebecca perkins midlife coach
Rebecca Perkins
Creator of Irresistible Dating Profile

About the Author

I’m a woman in her early 50s, embracing midlife and reinventing herself with first hand experience of the many changes we are facing in midlife. I know what it’s like to experience periods of low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence. I’ve suffered years of depression and have come through it, stronger and more at ease with who I am. I’m an explorer and live with the belief that we create our own experience of life via our thinking.

I’m a qualified NLP Master Practitioner and Coach and the author of Best Knickers Always: 50 Lessons for Midlife. My writing is regularly featured in the Huffington Post. I write for the Guardian Soulmates Blog and am the Midlife Dating Expert for eHarmony.

From Survive to Thrive

Begin today on creating your own

 Irresistible Dating Profile

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