This time last year I sent an email out to my close circle of friends.
‘Susie Orbach, author and psychoanalyst wrote that “It’s vital to have friends that you can really talk to. You must not be afraid to show them your vulnerability or risk telling them how you feel, so that they can explore your problems with you. Cultivate the kind of friends who will not be afraid to tell you when they think you’re doing something that’s not in your best interests”.
The last few years have been one hell of a rollercoaster for me, often wondering how on earth I managed to board this particular fairground attraction! Some of you I’ve know all my life and some more recently. All of you have supported me in one way or another on this journey. I’d love to get you all together for a Girl’s Night In to thank you all for your love, kindness and kicks up the bum, long distance phone calls, alcohol and coffee!’
We did indeed have an extraordinary evening. A group of women coming together, some knowing each other and others meeting for the first time. I was the common denominator. We ate, we drank, we laughed, we cried and we told stories of our lives and our experiences. Some single, some married, some widowed, some with children and others without, some working full-time, others full-time mums. All happy to learn about and from each other. All richer for this real exchange.
The 18th Century Irish poet Thomas Moore wrote “We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversation with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk”. I have just spent a week away with a friend I have had for 16 years, we have such real conversation and it enriches both of our lives. We laugh together like banshees and we support each other in our tears. I feel truly blessed to be surrounded by such friendship and ‘sisters’ and oh so glad to have chosen womanhood!