This afternoon I was out in the park with my dog, ipod on shuffle. One of my favourite dog walking artists came on – Dan Reed, a man with an exquiste voice, his lyrics are spine tingling. This afternoon he was singing ‘Candlelight‘………… ‘everyone has a favourite scar‘ he sang, a phrase that stopped me in my tracks. Oh yes, oh yes how true. We all do have our favourite scar. Scars are a sign that we have lived and are alive.
We all of us have physical, mental and emotional scars. What we do with them is ultimately up to us. Some of us wear our scars as badges of honour. Some of us wear scars to show others that we are victims or indeed to remind ourselves that we are victims. Is your scar something you allow to live off you like a parasite? Is your scar a story you continue to perpetuate? Is your scar an open wound, a scab that you keep picking at?
I have a favourite scar, it shows up as sciatica. I know what causes it and I know what perpetuates it. I also know that I can stop it causing me irritation by simply changing my thinking.
Is your scar one you use to benefit you? Is it a reminder of how far you’ve come? Is your scar something you are proud of and use it to guide you through your life? Is your scar an open wound still? Is your scar a scab that you constantly pick at? Is your scar a physical, emotional or mental wound that you use against yourself or others?
We all know people who have had more than their fair share of troubles and are slowing sinking under the pressure of their scars. People who allow their scars to rule their lives, to define their lives. Ask yourself, are you one of those people? Are you living out your life as a victim of your circumstances?
On the other hand we all know people who have had truly more than their fair share of troubles whether they be physical or emotional yet they use their scar to guide them to a better more fulfilling and inspiring way of living. These are the people who uplift and to you all I am forever grateful. You know who you are and you guide me daily. Thank you.
What are you scars? And more importantly what do you want to do with them?
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Sometimes new experiences leave their scars, some good to remember, some not so good….it’s not the scar- it is what you make of what life throws at you that matters. My first skateboarding attempt left me with a lasting memory of both laughter and pain…but without trying new things life would be so unbelievably DULL. Get out and live it to the full.
Thank you BC for your comment. You’re absolutely right that it’s what we make of what life throws at us that’s important to remember. I certainly don’t plan on living a DULL life! Southern Comfort and Coke at Waterloo it is then whatever time it’s being offered!!! 😉 Have a great weekend!
you could never be dull 🙂
🙂