“When you fight something, you’re tied to it forever. As long as you’re fighting it, you’re giving it power.” – Anthony de Mello.
What battles are you fighting at the moment? Do you have an internal struggle going on, resisting something that you know deep down you’d be best to release and let go of? Resisting always comes with pain, emotional yes, and often times physical.
Or are you having a battle with someone, a loved one or someone you used to love perhaps? Are you stuck because you believe you are right and want them to act, to apologise before you can move on? What’s more important to you right now? To be right or to be at peace? If it’s to be right, then I say good luck with that.
Until we are willing to question our current beliefs on being right then it will always cause us pain.
Who’s hurting right now because of this battle?
Believe me I’ve had battles in the past. I’ve ended up emotionally and physically scarred from them. Now I choose a different way because I was the one suffering. No one else.
Remember no one can cause us pain without our permission. We allow people to treat us the way they do. Yeah really , we do. Take a look at your struggles right now and ask what part your ego is playing in the battle?
Life is short guys. Remember that always.
And those battles you’re having with yourself, you know the ones that begin I should, I must, I ought to, I have to, take a closer look at those too. What if those things you really can’t avoid you embraced with a lighter heart? Right now I ought to be doing my tax but I’d rather be on Facebook… So what if I focussed on how great I’ll feel once it’s done and out of the way…I know it never takes as long as I imagine it will… Right now I should be tackling the pile of (pre) and post holiday ironing but I’d rather be …(fill in the blank!), so I know I won’t necessarily feel a huge surge of joy for doing it but I will feel a little lighter for not seeing the pile every time I walk into the kitchen.
“What you resist persists. And only what you look at, and own, can disappear. You make it disappear by simply changing your mind about it.”
— Neale Donald Walsch