Self sabotage is a dream stealer.
Self sabotage leads us to eat another piece of cake. Self sabotage urges us to open the bottle of wine. Self sabotage chooses rotten partners for us. Self sabotage says it’s too cold and wet and dark to go to the gym. Self sabotage stops us applying for that great job.
Ladies and gentlemen, self sabotage is a bitch. It keeps us trapped within our comfort zone. It prevents us from becoming powerful.
I remember many years ago listening to Michael Parkinson interviewing Robbie Williams who I think had just come back from the edge of self destruction. Parky asked him,
“Why do you do it? Why do you go from seemingly having it all to self destruction?”
Robbie’s response shocked me in its honesty,
“Because I don’t deserve it. Because I’m not worth it.”
I remember nothing else from that interview. I’d heard all I needed to. Self sabotage made public.
Victim in life or Hero? Which do you choose?
Why do we allow this gremlin to prevent us from doing what we want to do?
What frightens us? What is the reason behind self sabotage that causes us to retreat into our shell, to play small?
Fear of success? Fear that life might actually turn out really well?
Afraid of having what we really really want in life?
I know self sabotage well.
- Self sabotage manifests itself in opening the fridge to pour a glass of wine because ‘I need to unwind’ (even though I’ve committed to myself that I won’t do it, it only makes me fall asleep).
- Self sabotage manifests in making all sorts of excuses not to go to the gym even though I know how good I feel after the burn.
- Self sabotage manifests in procrastination…somehow the ironing has more appeal than writing that difficult blog post.
- Self sabotage manifests in over analysing a text from my man rather than enjoying the relationship.
Self sabotage keeps us small and living unfulfilled lives.
It’s a constant battle yet it’s a battle worth fighting. Each and every day if necessary.
Marianne Williamson, one of my heroes writes:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
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